Is your confidence UNSHAKABLE? Do you believe, down to your core, that you are worthy and valuable and have every ability to kick ass at life? If you’re nodding “Hell yes” that's awesome! If not, take a deep breath because you aren’t alone. At any given time, 85% of people admit they struggle with self-confidence and, roughly the same number of adults admit to having low self-esteem. In this episode we’re getting real about, what I refer to as, the Holy Trinity of Self-Love and that is the ability to have self-confidence, self-worth, and self-esteem. These things sound the same but are totally different. So we’re breaking it down without the fluffy “woo speak” so you can understand what each of these is, what they are NOT, and why self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-worth matter if you’re going to live a liberated life on YOUR terms. Let’s do this Topics we’re chatting about include: Self-Worth: This is the deep-seated acknowledgment of your inherent value as a person, deserving of love and respect. Self-Confidence: This is the belief in your ability to succeed at specific tasks. Self-Esteem: This is your personal evaluation of your own worth, often influenced by comparisons with others. My Personal Path to Self-Discovery: I opened up about my own struggles with these concepts, particularly as I approached my 40s. Despite others seeing me as confident, I was a champion people-pleaser without a true sense of self. My journey to self-love began with the realization that I had been seeking external validation instead of cultivating my own sense of worth. The Role of the Trinity in Self-Love: Cultivating self-worth, self-confidence, and self-esteem is essential for taking control of our lives. These elements enable us to leave unhealthy relationships, pursue our dreams, and feel deserving of success. They're not static; they can be strengthened or challenged over time, and we can actively work on improving them. Tools for Self-Reflection and Growth: I provided resources, including the Rosenberg self-esteem scale and the contingencies of self-worth scale, along with reflective questions to help you assess your levels of self-worth, self-confidence, and self-esteem. These tools encourage introspection and are a starting point for personal growth. Timestamps 01:14 - Starting Point: The Basics of Self-Love 01:57 - Sarah's Personal Journey of Self-Discovery 02:49 - Realizing the Need for Self-Awareness 03:52 - The Confusion Between Confidence and Self-Knowledge 04:36 - The Gap Between External Perception and Self-Perception 05:39 - Introducing the Holy Trinity of Self-Love 06:00 - The Interplay of Self-Esteem, Confidence, and Self-Worth 07:59 - Defining Self-Esteem: Your Sense of Value 09:35 - Tools for Assessing Self-Esteem 11:00 - Exploring Self-Worth: Beyond Self-Esteem 13:09 - Characteristics of High Self-Esteem 14:47 - Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem: Understanding the Difference 16:03 - The Self-Worth Theory: Ability, Effort, and Performance 18:10 - Common but Questionable Sources of Self-Worth 20:07 - Reflecting on Your Own Self-Worth 21:10 - Defining Self-Confidence: Belief in Abilities 22:36 - Self-Confidence vs. Self-Esteem: A Critical Distinction 23:07 - Summary: The Relationship Between the Three Concepts 24:10 - Sarah's Example: Interconnection of Self-Concepts 27:58 - The Necessity of Balancing All Three for Self-Love 29:02 - Mention of Resources and Upcoming Deep Dives
